Siddhaswarupananda: Peace in this World
Why is it that humans are so afraid to commit themselves to loving each other? Folks are afraid of the society they are in. They spend more time worrying about what others will think about their relationship until they forget the most vital behaviors given to people.
It has always been heard that if you adore, you may be considered nave. When you are cheerful, then you’re just easy and not worth taking significant. If you’re generous and care for the well being of another, they’re considered suspects. Forgiving is a sign of weakness. Developing trust in others, you are likely to be considered a fool. When you are taking all the above gestures and add them up to get an opinion, you may be considered afake.
Folk need to understand that in order to form a relationship there are so many actions to take into consideration. One desires to understand about love ; compassion ; kindliness ; caring ; sharing and the way to relate to another. Without these fine features, life is empty though you could be in the best of health. You’ll have a very comfortable home and your life still is empty. Even if many humans know this behaviour, they spend extremely little time attempting to correct their behavior.
Today, you will find many people that are so complex that they cant admit to the confusion and displeasure that they have let their ego get them into. This can be devastating to a relationship. Learning to share your love with another can be extremely overwhelming. Humans have such little trust when it comes to the flow of life. There is always that need for permanency or continuity, when the sole unchanging quality in life as in love should be expansion and liberty.
Eventhough so many humans are fearful of a relationship, you continue to find ill-equipped humans forming friendships ; marrying ; and raising families with no resources to meet the overpowering demands they might have to face head on. Siddhaswarupananda has many writings on life and curbing fear.
It is very strange that even knowing the desperate need for relating, one may continue thru much of their life only to engage in athoughtless idle behaviour, which will only relate in one becoming isolated.
There could have been weeks ormaybe months that you will have been ecstatic and full of joy, and then it happens. You {started|began} to wonder : Why is it this relationship is no more? How could this have been overlooked? Was it harder then, or now? These are just a few questions one may ask after a relationship has failed.
Dont be afraid of loving relationships. This is mandatory for life health and growth. Almost all of you have learned from experience, that inability to live in harmony with another is responsible for many of the fears ; anxieties ; and mental sicknesses. Even people that hunger for closeness and understanding often find that there is nowhere you can turn for help.
Unable to fetch help, you can continue to engage blindly in adistressing, unfulfilling relationship, that may sap all your energies. Frequently one will find that they lack the strength and information to meet the demands of relating.
Humans have obviously not learned much from past years. Noone has stopped to think that humans are not born with viewpoints regarding other people one needs to be taught. It is up to the person to discover new solutions and learn new patterns or relating.
Dont be afraid! Anything that has been learned can be unlearned and relearned. It’s just in this process of change that real hope lays. Take time to oneself and focus on the relationship you are wanting. Enter into the relationship conscious of the advantages and disadvantages. Never get to comfortable in a relationship ; failure could be lurking round the corner.
