You’ve been dumped. May be you in fact deserved it, but may be you did something regretable. Maybe it was because the guy wanted to explore other options (aka date other girls). May be it happened, because you did not invest anything into the relationship and let it die. Whatever the reason you’ve emerged from your initial shock or denial and realized that you want this guy back. You realized that despite his leaving his socks on the floor, wearing T-shirts he’s had since the 8th grade and his reliance on Taco Bell for most of his dietary needs, he’s adorable.
Dry your tears. It’s time to start doing something and get that adorable man back. Follow these steps straight back to Datesville and happy times snuggling on the couch together. So how to get back your ex boyfriend?
1. Look the part. Remember when you first met? Or your first date? It probably didn’t involve sweatpants and yesterday’s makeup. Indulge in some self improvement. Confidence is super sexy. No man on this planet will find you sexy and desirable if he catches you with tissues in your nose. Go to a spa or the gym. Get an updated look and give your ex a reason to take a second look.
2. Get your sales pitch together. Write your own profile as if you were going to post it online for a dating site. Much like a job interview, you will need to sell yourself. By making a listing of your attributes and taking inventory, you will have the chance to show your ex boyfriend what a great catch you are and why you should be together. There is no need to recite it later, but you will gain confidence and in addition get some talking points you can use.
3. You should be honest with yourself. Why aren’t you together right now? Did you stray? Did you let yourself get too complacent? Were you a nag? Did he cheat? So may be he flipped out, because he is commitment phobic? You can’t possibly make a case for why you need to try to get back together unless you honestly understand why you are apart. Only then you have a good foundation to establish new ground rules, sincerely apologize with any hope of improving on the thngs that went wrong and agree to handle things differently.
4. Take this for granted: do not try any gimmicks. Trust me, having him see you in town with others having great fun or stalking him after his soccer training will not work. If this guy is indeed worht a second chance, then he does not deserve being fooled in seeing him again. Give him a phone call. Tell you ex boyfriend that you spend a lot of time thinking and you know that he would want to hear what you have to say because the thoughts have value for both of you.
5. Say it right. Even if he did something incredibly stupid, acknowledge shared responsibility. Realize that compromise is mandatory. Make a plan to reconcile. Set boundaries. Expect success.
With a little effort and more work, you can get your ex-boyfriend back. It’s time to put away those tissue and start getting on!
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