If you’ve been thinking a lot about how to spice things up in your relationship, talking dirty is a fantastic way to begin. Too often, couples who have been together for a long time lose the “spark” they once had earlier in their relationship. Has this happened to your relationship? Maybe as of late, having sex feels more like an “inconvenience” unless you’re both REALLY in the mood and feeling energetic. Whatever happened to the eroticism you both once felt toward each other?
This sense of sensuality-lost can kill your love life over time. If you want to rev things up again, you’ll have to add a new dimension to your sex life!
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Learning how to talk dirty is a great place to start. It may feel a bit uncomfortable the first couple of tries. Maybe you tried saying something dirty before, and it was taken out of context or even turned off your love. Read on to discover some techniques to get started on the right foot.
Just be yourself Going overboard, such as attempting to simulate a porn movie with her is not advisable. Your wife or girlfriend may take it as a bit strange. Off color lines such as “you’re a dirty little whore, aren’t you?” will probably come off the wrong way to the woman you adore and share your life with. You’re better off using a soft, romantic tone. So keep it mellow, such as, “Oh yeah honey, I love it when you make your lips all wet and do that to me”.
Hear how it sounds Visualize being with your girl the next time you’re pleasuring yourself and say some hot lines out loud that come to mind. Does it sound sexy, or weird? Remember the phrases that seemed hot and don’t be afraid to blurt out a few when the moment is right. Keep in mind that how she’ll respond to your verbal advances has a lot to do with how “connected” she feels to you.
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The first time When you’re enjoying foreplay, start with some “ooohs” and “ahhs” along with some hot breathing. You’ll be clueing her in to how you’re ready to take the excitement to the next level.
Compliment Women absolutely eat it up when you tell them how hot and sexy they appear to you! Compliment her in ways such as, “oh honey, I love your curves and how gorgeous your body looks” or while holding her face in your hands, say “Oh baby you are so hot!”. If you’ve heard the adage, “flattery gets you everywhere”, well there’s no better proving ground than in the bedroom!
Say what you’re enjoying Every now and then,lines such as “Oh, the way you move against my _____ is so hot”, or “I can’t wait to put my ____ into your _____”. There’s a very good chance that by now you’ve got her blurting out sexy lines also to make you hotter!
Momentum After a few steamy nights like this, she may be up for even more variety! She may even be the one who surprises you the next time and introduces a little kinkiness into the bedroom.
As cliché as it may sound, you’ll be amazed at how much a little erotic verbal effort on your part can go a long way to rekindle that old spark!
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